Posts tagged ‘lessons’

September 6, 2012

Accountibility

Accountability, do you have any

Accountability isn’t just a place to put blame. It’s the defining factor of who we are. Are we accountable for our actions.

In life it is very easy to blame anything and everything else than take responsibility for your own actions.

My son brought a puppy home that he found, she’s adorable. As any kid would he begged to keep her. “Fine, but I don’t have the time to exercise her, train her, or take care of her.” my son agreed to doing all these duties, as of course any kid would. He did great for a couple of weeks. The last couple of weeks have been very hot so I get that both the dogs and the kids energy of running over the top.

I wasn’t in the door from work more than a minute when my son comes bobbing out and says, “Now you need to get me 2 play station remotes the dog chewed up the other one.” This morning it was a backpack and hat. Yesterday it was Ugg boots. The day be for I found all the couch pillows in the back yard. Before that it was my extension cord for the sander, my toms, my plants, my apple connectors. “Really, I don’t need to replace anything. You need to play with the dog.”. Everything is the dogs fault. Of course he put his remotes away the dog just got them. Of course it’s not his fault. It’s the dogs. Where is the responsibility for your possessions. Where is the accountability for not putting his stuff out of the puppies reach.

The math teacher can’t grade the homework because there is to many papers to grade. “It’s the student responsibility to grade and check their work.” “Its the student responsibility to be prepared for the test, and to seek outside help if they do not understand the subject matter.” Where is the accountability for the job you are getting paid for.

We blame fast food for being fat.
We blame music for our children being violent.
We blame school and government for our state of well being.
We blame other people for our level of self esteem.
We blame.

Accountability – the state of being accountable, liable or answerable.

Everywhere around you people are blaming other people. We use reason, and justification to place blame where we need it. We avoid the facts. We avoid effort to make change. It’s all so easy.

I screw up shit all the time. Happy to take the blame. Happy to fix it. Happy to be held accountable. It’s the only way I can teach my kids to be accountable. It’s the only way I can expect a degree of accountability from other people.

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September 4, 2012

It’s always a sunny day when it rains.

20120904-204935.jpgLife is a strange thing. It’s full of twist and turns hiding adventure around every curve. You just never know where the landslide is going to be.

Lately it seems that every time I turn a corner life has offered me another landslide. It’s a little rock here, a big boulder there, and a massive dump of mountain straight ahead.

If there is one lesson in life I have learned it would be most problems, issues, and concerns resolve themselves with time and patience, although they are in constant conflict. Time is the one thing that human patience just can’t stand. Patience is the act of waiting, but how long does patience have to wait for time.

Patience – the capacity to accept or tolerate with getting angry
Time – the indefinite continued progress of existence.

Just give it time. Please be patient. One is not of the other. Time goes on forever, however human patience does not. At some point patience like all things, except time, must end. At some point patience runs short. During most of life’s challenges patience is enough to suffice the boulders in our path, but when it’s not let the sun always shine on a rainy day you’ve got time.

In the last week my daughter has been sent to the principles office, my son has had a crash on his motocross bike, my grandmother is dying. The school math program is unsatisfactory. My son is putting little effort into his home work. My nectarine tree is dying from the heat. The puppy is chewing everything to shreds, and there are no cookies in the house. Yes, it’s still over 100 degrees on the west coast and I don’t have ac.

Total chaos. We all have it at one point or another. I think the trick is to find happiness in it. Find a challenge in tragedy. Passion in stress. Be an advocate where there is conflict. Seek creativity, and imagination. Nothing in this life in concrete. Time has made sure of that and if we are patient time will change everything.

It’s always a sunny day when it rains.

June 25, 2011

Me and My Guitar

I’ve said it before. I’m stuck in a rut. I know the basics but just don’t know how to move forward.

When I started playing a year ago I struggled with playing left or right handed. I finally decided left which limits me. I bought a Fender 100 because that was the only left handed guitar they had in stock which was fine because like all things I didn’t know if I would stick with it. Kind of like writing. I love doing it but time always seems to be a factor. There just isn’t enough time to do everything and my daily chores. As I played and practiced I played more, and then more. The laundry didn’t mind waiting and I was grateful for the extra time to play.

Seven months into playing I got sick which put a real damper on the whole thing. Had I hit the spot where commitment was lost? Was I just over it and wasted a couple hundred dollars on guitar I wouldn’t play again? Did I want to play? I just didn’t know where to start or where to go. The rut had found me. Little by little I picked it up every day and strummed a chord or two but the interest wasn’t really there. I know all the basic chords and have put together a couple melodies. But still I felt lost.

Writing is a different story. You almost always have pen and paper. The waste factor is unusually low if you set it down for months, even years it’s no big deal. At least not for me. I almost certainly did not want to see my guitar end up that way, so I broke down and bought a program.

guitarjamz.com. Marty Swartz is my saving grace. I joined his guitar coaching club which in just two days has taught me a great many things, including some music theory. I’m very self motivated when it comes to something I want to do. I love to research my interests so I had been watching his free videos on You Tube since I started. Of course there’re a great many teachers and programs out there. I like Marty the best. He is easy to understand not to mention I like his hats. The hats are important because who wants to look at some aesthetically unpleasing sap.

Now I look forward to playing everyday even if life only affords me fifteen minutes. Now if I could just get motivated to take some writing classes my life would be complete.